Sharing The Sky

It is so crazy to think that one day someone is a constant in your life and the next thing you know the only thing you share is the sky. You're in totally different places, living totally different lives, with totally different people but when you both look up at night you both see the same stars. You both see the same beautiful sunsets just from two different places and with two different perspectives. You no longer chat about the little details of your day or get excited about showing them your new shoes or your new haircut. There are no more phone calls talking about life and future plans. No more getting excited about the things in their life. Whether it is a lost friendship or a breakup, heck even both, it sucks. Someone told me once that “the purest form of love is continuing to love a person from a distance.” Loving someone doesn't just flip on and off like a light switch. Maybe one day you reach a point where you no longer love them in a romantic or best friend type of way but you will always have love in your heart for that person. Loving someone from a distance is constantly praying for that person and wishing the best for them even if that isn't you. It is okay to be sad, It is okay to miss someone, and it is okay to grieve that person even if the relationship ended badly. It's okay to want to cry when you see something that reminds you of them. It is okay to throw their favorite perfume away, it's okay to not want to eat y’all’s favorite candy bar anymore or watch that show. You're human and you loved them with your whole heart, that doesn't mean you loved them correctly but you loved them. They played a huge role in your life so yes of course it hurts when they aren't there anymore. It hurts to see the places you spent countless hours, it hurts to see things that you laughed way too hard at. It hurts to be the one that got hurt, it hurts to be the one that did the hurting, and it hurts when no one did anything it was just right to go your own ways. It hurts. They brought happiness into your life while they were there, you made amazing memories and there will always be that part of you that wishes you could go back and do it again. It's okay to feel that. These days when two people split it's normal to block them and bash them any chance you get. Don't be that person, you knew them and you knew their heart, you knew what broke them and you knew exactly how to make their day. What good does it do to go off and bash someone who is no longer in your life? None. So be thankful for those memories, be thankful for the lessons they taught you, be thankful for the way you grew, and be thankful for all they were for you when you needed it most. Just because it still hurts, doesn't mean you're not healing. Just because you still have moments of overwhelming grief, doesn't mean your heart isn't growing. Healing hurts, and in the end, it's always worth it. Those bad days will eventually get further and further apart. God isolates you so you can get yourself together and grow in your relationship with Him. John 13:7 says “Jesus replied, ‘You don’t understand now what I am doing, but someday you will.’” Trust His plan, no it's not comfortable and yes it's absolutely terrifying at times but there's peace in knowing that His way is the best way. In Psalm 61:4 David says, “For you have heard my vows, O God. You have given me an inheritance reserved for those who fear your name.” God has been a refuge to David in the past, so he reminds himself in the midst of these unwanted circumstances that God has come through for him before and He will do it again. In the first two verses of the next chapter, David says “I wait quietly before God, for my victory comes from Him. He alone is my rock and my salvation, my fortress where I will never be shaken.” God is our rock and we are to trust that He won't be shaken. God is our solid ground when our whole entire world around us is falling down. It may seem like you lost friendships and relationships but a better relationship with God and a better you is worth more. In the wise words of Zach Bryan “It's a good day to be breathing ol sons and it is no one's job to be perfect.” At the end of the day you're both alive and breathing and that's a blessing, be thankful you still get to share the sky.

Good Talk,

Rylie With The Messy Life :)